For those of you who are unaware of this fact, success is a relative term. In other words, the measure of success is defined differently for each person. the sort of success that most people aspire toward is monetary value and occupational goals, but for those who might not deem them important enough, there are those who deem success in family or spiritual terms. It's exactly like asking someone what makes that person happy. for each person you ask, you will get a different answer. After all, in the most basic sense, success equals happiness or another way of saying things is that to be successful means to be happy.
And that's how I see things. You can have all the money in the world but if you hate your job, are you really successful? You can achieve every occupational goal possible, but if it's at the sacrifice of your family and home life, are you really successful?
My definition of success is a mixture of happiness in everything that encompasses my life. Occupation? to be honest, it's not a top priority. I'm a homemaker. It's not exactly what I pictured doing with my life but that's fine with me. In my spare time, I'm a writer and that does make me happy. Monetary measurement? Again, something that is nice but not a top priority. I just want enough money to live on with enough to buy a few toys every so often and a little bit extra to be able to help those around me. family? Yeah, I have to say that personally, I'm kicking butt in that field. I got a husband of almost 10 years who loves me and I love him and we like each other enough to talk to each other and spend time with each other, plus, we got a daughter, who is pretty well behaved, smart, kind, loving, healthy and beautiful, who we love and she loves us, also who loves spending time with us and who we love spending time with. Plus we got parents, grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, siblings and friends who we're happy to say are part of our family. spiritually? again, that field is totally owned. I'm a big believer in karma. There is a god out there, by whatever name you want to give, and that god is ready to give good to those who deserve good and give bad to those who deserve bad. I do my best to do right for myself and for those around me and I do my best to not harm. I am who I am and make no apologies or excuses for who I am, nor do I hide who I am. I fought tooth and nail to be the person that I am today and I don't regret a single decision that I made that helped create who I am today. How many people can say that as the truth?
And about me? Don't think I'm done measuring my own success. I'm always working towards my goals. I'm not done writing. I may or may not get them published but as long as I start any story I write, each one can be considered a success. Money comes and goes and sometimes I'll need it at different points in my life but as long as I can feed myself and my family I have to say that it's all good. Success in family is something that never stops but my hope is to make it even better. Failure is when you can't add anyone to that list of those who love you. And on that last note, personally, my thought is that if you can't achieve success without sacrificing yourself or your identity of self, well, you failed, period, and that right there is the most difficult thing about success or idea of success.
So yeah, I consider myself successful and I'm not done being successful. So what if I'm smart and you don't think that I'm doing my best best to fulfill the potential that my intelligence perceives to give me like being a doctor or a rocket scientist and while those ideas to become those things are kind of cool who says I'd be happy doing them in the 1st place? My definition of success doesn't come without love and I got love in excess spades. I won't be held down by another person's definition of success.
