I don't understand why asking for help or offering help seems
to be the hardest thing a person in modern society can do. By everyone’s use of common words of 4 letter
length, whether the words is appropriate or not, help is a 4 letter word and
shouldn't be difficult for people to use it.
Yet, asking for help or giving help without prompting seems like a
monumental task of epic proportions, and somehow the act of grabbing a gun,
walking into a crowded area and shooting people until they are out of bullets
or dead is an easier task. I wish I
could say that I was being witty or any other reason at all by making such an unfortunate
comment but I can’t, and you may have no idea how much I wish this is indeed a
sarcastic observation.
It seems to be a common thing these days to turn on the news
or open a news website to see a journalism piece of another person who has
decided that life is so horrible that they feel the need to take it out on
others. What do they feel they
accomplish when they carry out these atrocities? Do they feel better inflicting their pain
onto another person? Are they trying to
get people to notice them or feeling something with them? Do they really see such a choice as the only
choice left? What has driven them do
this?
Nothing is accomplished from such actions. There is only an instant gratification of
pride when inflicting pain onto another person but it doesn't last, it doesn't
fix things and it doesn't make the bad things go away but makes things worse
later. People notice such things being
done, when they are involved, but there are a million different ways to make a
person take notice of another person in a much more positive way and with that,
there are many other options to take that don’t involve inflicting pain on
people who have done nothing to harm them.
I imagine pain and suffering has driven them but from such things people
can learn compassion and caring. They
just need a little help to be pointed in the right direction.
Asking for help is not a weakness. It takes strength to realize that a person
cannot always stand by his or her self. It
takes courage for a person to reach out for the help he or she needs. It takes empathy to remember that everyone
needs help and that each person has a time when it needs to be asked for. Giving help is not a flaw either. It is bravery when a person puts his or her self out
there to be able to give something whether big or small to another person. It takes understanding to know that everyone
needs help and that each person must give help when they can.
I don’t always succeed but I hope I have helped enough
people in big and small ways to put some good out in the world. My thoughts and prayers are with the people
who have been affected by such evil doings, past, present, future and with the
most recent deaths in the Navy Yard shootings.
